Quick Reference Guide to Compassionate Communication

Quick Reference Guide


Nonviolent Communication Part 1: Marshall Rosenberg (10 minutes)
Nonviolent Communication Part 2: Marshall Rosenberg (6 minutes)


The 40-Year-Old Photo That Gives Us A Reason to Smile: by Karen Grigsby Bates
In late July 1973, Joseph Crachiola was wandering the streets of Mount Clemens, Mich., a suburb of Detroit, with his camera. As a staff photographer for the Macomb Daily, he was expected to keep an eye out for good feature images — “those little slices of life that can stand on their own.”

7 billion Others (VIDEO):
The GoodPlanet Foundation asked people from all over the world a series of standard questions about the things they value. The survey examines their hopes, dreams, fears, and grounding principles. In bearing witness to the answers, the project allows us to explore the depth of our human commonality against the superficial visual and linguistic signs of difference.

Can Emotional Intelligence Be Taught?: by Jennifer Kahn, The New York Times
Once a small corner of education theory, social-emotional learning has gained traction in recent years, driven in part by concerns over school violence, bullying and teen suicide. But while prevention programs tend to focus on a single problem, the goal of S.E.L. is grander: to instill a deep psychological intelligence that will help children regulate their emotions.

Can You Run Out of Empathy?: by C. Daryl Cameron
Science says we can expand our empathic bandwidth and sensitize ourselves to situations with large numbers of strangers. The problem isn’t with empathy itself. Instead, it’s how people handle their empathy that matters.

The Committee of the Mind: by Thanissaro Bhikku
There are many different ideas of “you” in your mind, each with its own agenda. Each of these “you’s” is a member of the committee of the mind. This is why the mind is less like a single mind and more like an unruly throng of people: lots of different voices, with lots of different opinions about what you should do.

Disarming with Empathy: Jo Berry at TEDxExeter:
Sixteen years after her father was killed by an IRA bomb, Jo Berry first met with the man responsible, Pat Magee. Her preparedness to try to understand him opened a path to empathy that continues to develop.

How Not to Talk to Your Kids: by Po Bronson
Giving kids the label of “smart” does not prevent them from underperforming. It might actually be causing it.

Lessons From An Accident: by Grace Damman:
“For eleven months, I have been totally dependent on others for everything: for brushing teeth, being fed, helping me in and out of the chair. What I initially thought was that compassion ought to be aligned with warmth and empathy. Now I feel that it must be aligned with wisdom.”

Let’s Talk Empathy (VIDEO): Tanya Awad Ghorra at TEDxYouth@Hamra
Tanya Awad Ghorra lives in Lebanon. She studied Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for ten days in 2009…. Tanya caught fire and took it upon herself to spread the message of hope she received to people who she knew needed it. She has trained hundreds of people in a number of countries: including Egyptian and Lebanese NGOs; Ministry of Interior affairs employees in Kurdistan (after they signed a law protecting women from abuse, in order to help them understand nonviolence); students, parents and teachers in several schools; and the leading bank in Lebanon.

Six Habits of Highly Empathic People, by Roman Krznaric:
The big buzz about empathy stems from a revolutionary shift in the science of how we understand human nature. The old view that we are essentially self-interested creatures is being nudged firmly to one side by evidence that we are also homo empathicus, wired for empathy, social cooperation, and mutual aid.

Talking It Out: The New Conversation-centered Leadership, by Alan S. Berson and Richard G. Stieglitz:
As you move into upper leadership levels, your technical skills — what you know — become less important. What counts is whom you know and, perhaps more important, who knows and trusts you.

Uncovering the Blind Spot of Leadership, by C. Otto Scharmer
Successful leadership depends on the quality of attention and intention that the leader brings to any situation. Two leaders in the same circumstances doing the same thing can bring about completely different outcomes, depending on the inner place from which each operates.